And of course the best way to celebrate is after getting off a nine hour shift having a regular customer stop you and after a five minute conversation ask if I like older men and would consider some help paying for school in exchange for taking up a "physical hobby". Which is then marked with following me around the store at a distance (conveniently stopping other employees to ask questions about products) for an hour until I hid in the back and he left.
Which by best I mean I don't feel safe going back to work.
Since I work out in the fuel center, and I see this gentleman often. He's probably close to my grandfather's age, and being in the South I'm just kinda used to older men asking silly questions like what I'm studying for school and such. Which was why I let him stop me in the first place while I was in the store ready to do my weekly shopping. Like I have a lot of customers that want to stop and talk to me, and ask me about school and what I like to do for fun and stuff (Quite honestly I just finished talking to a couple who I was talking about our family trees since they were getting ready to go to Germany, and was showing them my niece's baby pictures because the last time they saw me i was rude to them a bit since my sister in law was in labor for 18 hours and i was hurrying to bring lunch to the crowd of nervous family members)
It just usually doesn't go: school -> careers -> what i like doing in my time off -> if i have any hobbies that keep me active -> "you're such a sweet lovely girl" -> do date -> what would i think about dating an older men -> "you need someone to teach you about certain things life can offer you" -> what would i think about someone paying for school for me (i mentioned taking a semester off do to financial aid) and taking up some more physical hobbies.
It took me telling this gentleman that i wasn't interested, that I didn't really want to date anyone, that i really hadn't thought about dating older men, that i was just barely eighteen (i'm not for the record), and that i lived with my parents still and wasn't allowed to date while i was there just for him to let me leave the conversation. He still followed me through the different departments while i stopped and made my coworkers talk to me for a bit just so he wouldn't have a way to stop me and talk more. I figured he would eventually leave, but he just followed about fifteen feet behind me watching me grabbing things and stopping other workers to ask where something was/cooking advice/etc. He didn't even leave the store until I had one of my coworkers pull me back into storage to hide, and even after he left I had a coworker walk me out to my car since I was freaked and in the far part of the lot.
Anyways, I'm really nervous about going back to work since like i mentioned i work out in the fuel kiosk and he's a frequent customer.
Its happened before where I've had a gentleman tell me he's going to take me home whether his wife likes it or not then at the end of the night (like almost an hour later) I saw him sitting in a dark car behind the fuel station after it had closed watching me.
I'm not sure if there's anything I can have management do or anything, or even if they would considering he's a very wealthy frequent shopper in the store (to the point someone knew his name). Not to mention he technically didn't do anything illegal in their/the law's eyes. It just worries me though since I'm alone a lot, especially when i'm walking to and from the store early in the morning/late at night, and he lives in the neighborhood across from the store.
Shut it down. Only speak when necessary to him. Here's your change, have a nice day. Nothing else. Have someone walk with you for awhile if you can. If he doesn't take the hint tell management you are going to call the police and report him. Remind management that you are under 18 and he is making sexual comments to you.
One more thing, you might try getting him and the manager together somehow and then telling the customer in front of the manager that you are a minor, you don't want him to pay for your school, have sex with him, etc. and his comments are out of line and you want him to stop.
Old people can be the worst. Once they are past their prime they tend to stop caring what it's like to be young and just do whatever they want. If you're in the fuel center how about calling the store and asking someone to give you an escort to your car. Being with someone cuts down on incidents quite a bit.
-- Edited by BagBoy on Friday 11th of September 2015 09:39:23 PM
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I don't think management would actually care or be of much help, unless they want to escort her to her car or something.
Then a complaint should be filed. Management should certainly do something since she is a minor and he has been soliciting sex with a minor. Bagboy, are you SURE the manager wouldn't care? What makes you say that? How do you know the manager wouldn't care or do anything? Do you have experience with this manager or this type of situation?
I don't think management would actually care or be of much help, unless they want to escort her to her car or something.
Then a complaint should be filed. Management should certainly do something since she is a minor and he has been soliciting sex with a minor. Bagboy, are you SURE the manager wouldn't care? What makes you say that? How do you know the manager wouldn't care or do anything? Do you have experience with this manager or this type of situation?
If he's harassing her in the store, yes, call the manager. Have him escorted out. Talk to him with the manager present.
But after the fact it will get little done then an "i see, tell me when he comes in, again" out of a store manager. They aren't the police. Management can't stop a violent rampage. Management are middlemen and that's all you should expect from them.
Sure, some people might take things into their own hands but that's the minority. Managers are people too and are subject to the same things we are if things turn for the worst.
Will they care? Probably. Will they be able to do anything without them in front of them? no. Will they do something if the person IS in front of them? It depends on how much the manager cares.
Managers are people too. Some care; some don't. I generalize managers in that way and it's fine. You generalize them in another way. That's fine too. But it's not their job to be your bodyguard. It's not their job to be your friend, and it's not their job to be your confidant. The sooner you realize that the sooner you'll be able to accept the world around you.
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