I work as an hbc clerk. I flirt with a co manager bc he's very attractive! He flirts with me back bc we are both single and young. It's just innocent flirting but, I don't really see anybody else at my store being flirty with management! I try not to flirt with him in front of anybody else. Is this okay to be flirting with management?
Really? I didn't realize he could be fired for it! I mean I've considered getting a different job if this were to turn into something more! I really can't control my flirting when around him but, I'll try!
Not OK, no. Because he is your superior, he must be able to make decisions in the best interest of the store, even if they disappoint you.
And if you have a private quarrel, you will still have to work together, which I can confirm from experience is extremely uncomfortable--and I was the bossish one at the time, when the rules on this sort of thing were much looser. (But after the time when this sort of thing would get both parties fired out of hand.)
This is an excellent way to ruin you both. Don't. Do. It.
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"If I only had a brain..."
...but I'd settle for a nerve or two.
In my experience, in some stores (ok maybe just one) this behavior is encouraged and seen as "cute" by the other coworkers! It still makes me sick to see the pictures of them together now that they are a public couple... after all the time they SWORE they were just friends, oh yeah nothing to see here!
And did he get fired, no, just moved to another store. As for her, oh she got herself a nice promotion to click list supervisor!
As I've often heard over the years, "Don't poop where you eat!" Meaning, it may seem all cute and fine now to be flirting with this guy. But think about when it comes to promotion time and you aren't considered, you might get up in your feelings about it. Even if right now you might not think so. Or the opposite could happen, there could be another manager that has an issue with you but your "guy" gets the short straw and has to put you on suspension for something. That's not going to feel good either. So best to keep things friendly but professional!
P.S. I wouldn't even offer too much personal info to most of your co-workers anyway. Not saying they are all backstabbers or even a good majority. But you just never know who you can trust with regards to blowing off steam about things to. And they WON'T go tattling to a manager or dept. head about it.
I married one of my comanagers. We were upfront about our relationship to the store manager and kept things secretive and discrete. When we became engaged we were told we couldn't work in the same store. This all began over 3 years ago and we both still work for the company. The only difference I see is that I wasn't a union employee like you may be... Just be careful how you proceed. And flirting at work has to be at an absolute minimum. We were days away from our wedding and over half the store still didn't even realize we were ever dating to begin with!
