I ask because I'm a shy quiet person, or at least I'm viewed as such, and I find most of my coworkers avoid talking to me. Some of them do, but most avoid me in general.
My DH thinks I'm quiet and shy as well at times too. But in reality and rather he appreciates it or not, I try and "respect" him more than our other co-workers do. As it's beyond amazing how many folks talk about him behind his back with stuff.
But yea, I know for myself, I prefer to feel peeps out before I open up too much. And with some folks I tend to be more open with and with others it's a simple hey or at least talk about work related stuff. And other times I can have a ball laughing out loud over really stupid stuff after a while with other co-workers. But trust me if you are there long enough, someone is going to keep on til they think they have you figured out and keep asking stuff of you. I know I often get that in the bakery even still. Especially from more senior co-workers. If I have nothing to say to them it's always some comment about my hair(as I got it cornrowed for the summer to stay cool) or something else.
All the same though, I just say keep it peaceable and respectful. And focus on your work. Before long if your co-workers have any kind of sense they would appreciate you for what you DON'T say versus what you do. Trust me on that one.
Treat them with respect and dignity. If they want to talk, they'll talk. You cannot force them to talk. I'm a bit on the shy side in new environments. When I first started at Kroger, they tried pulling me out of my shyness. Didn't work. I became even quieter just to piss them off. And it worked. They got pissed off. (Didn't care, still dont). They couldn't fire me because I completed my assignments in a timely efficient manner.
Point is: if a shy person wants to talk, they'll talk. If not, just let them alone. If they work efficiently, then why chatter and talk?
treat people the way you want to be treated.i try to keep to myself and i don't really talk to people that i don't know unless i need something. sometimes i feel that people look at me as standoffish or rude because i'd rather get my job done than socialize, but it doesn't mean that i don't like them; it's just that I keep to myself (also i'm very cranky and want to go home!!!)
treat people the way you want to be treated.i try to keep to myself and i don't really talk to people that i don't know unless i need something. sometimes i feel that people look at me as standoffish or rude because i'd rather get my job done than socialize, but it doesn't mean that i don't like them; it's just that I keep to myself (also i'm very cranky and want to go home!!!)
Best way to stay out of sh... too. However at my store they try and pull you into something by saying your name in something. And the only time I care enough is when they said I did something. So I can say real quick that I did or did not do whatever it was. Totally do NOT need to be caught up in some sh...
But trust me if you are there long enough, someone is going to keep on til they think they have you figured out and keep asking stuff of you.
Thx, Bakerchick. I have noticed that there are a couple of people like that, they always say hi to me and try to talk to me.
Thx, everyone else.
No probs. And yea, I have some like that as well in my department. Hence I just give a quick hey and dive into work. And thankfully from there, in the deli, folks just probably ask if anybody has like dinner suggestions or offer up their own info(birthdays, husbands in the hospital, etc.). But usually they don't really get quite so nosy over there unless someone else prompts it.
For me, bakery is much different. As some from the "clique" in that department are always trying to figure a person out. And then making fun of them for it. As there is one chick that does fan fiction type of stories with her friends in her spare time. And although she didn't ask me to read it. She let our pastry chef read it and another younger girl. And they were getting all on her case about her grammar and how crappy the story was behind her back. While egging her on to write more stuff for them to "read". Was really bad. And I've also shared other mini situations in bakery how the peeps can be down there. Even more of a reason why I say very little at times to many of them and prefer to work on my own. As it's like they are just waiting and looking for fodder to poke fun at you sometimes with.
But trust me if you are there long enough, someone is going to keep on til they think they have you figured out and keep asking stuff of you.
Thx, Bakerchick. I have noticed that there are a couple of people like that, they always say hi to me and try to talk to me.
Thx, everyone else.
No probs. And yea, I have some like that as well in my department. Hence I just give a quick hey and dive into work. And thankfully from there, in the deli, folks just probably ask if anybody has like dinner suggestions or offer up their own info(birthdays, husbands in the hospital, etc.). But usually they don't really get quite so nosy over there unless someone else prompts it.
For me, bakery is much different. As some from the "clique" in that department are always trying to figure a person out. And then making fun of them for it. As there is one chick that does fan fiction type of stories with her friends in her spare time. And although she didn't ask me to read it. She let our pastry chef read it and another younger girl. And they were getting all on her case about her grammar and how crappy the story was behind her back. While egging her on to write more stuff for them to "read". Was really bad. And I've also shared other mini situations in bakery how the peeps can be down there. Even more of a reason why I say very little at times to many of them and prefer to work on my own. As it's like they are just waiting and looking for fodder to poke fun at you sometimes with.
I bet they are women too. This is why I don't tell people anything about my personal life. Too many as snakes being nice to your face and talking crap behind your back. They are probably jealous that she can be creative enough write and has good friends to do it with.
