Alright, I just want to start with saying I don't at all think this person sexually harassed/assaulted me, I just want a little advice since this is my first job and I'm socially "lacking", I guess. I work in clicklist, and I was putting rejects back in the meat dpt., when a guy (probably 45, 50, maybe older) comes up to me and says I'm good at stocking and I should meet with him after work, he said he'd want to get me a job at working as a stocker instead of in clicklist. It was flattering so I reflected that kindness back to him. He asked how old I was (I'm 20), he kept going on about how young I am and how young I look, and then asked if I was married. I said no, but that I have a boyfriend. He told me I should have 3 boyfriends, of course I said "No, I only want one". He tried to get my number, I told him "I don't have a phone", and then he gave me his number. He was overall pushy, but I should've been more assertive. Thankfully my coworker came and acted like we had a thing to brush him off.
Maybe I'm silly for posting this, but I work almost everyday and I know I'll see him again. Next time, I'll be more assertive, but I don't have high hopes he'll push like he did today. If the next time doesn't work if he approaches me and doesn't understand that I'm not interested, what exactly do I do? Without advice I'd probably go to a manager and just tell them, but I'm extremely worried about making things awkward or being known as "the girl who got so and so fired". I know I should already know what to do, I apologize for my lack of knowledge there. If anyone's been in a similar situation, please tell me how it was and what you did. I know I'm overreacting, but I want to be prepared I guess, and getting information from real people who have further experiences rather than from a employee pamphlet will feel and seem a lot more secure to me. Thank you very much.
The guy should have left it alone the moment you informed him that you have a boyfriend. He didn't, and that suggests he may try to have a similar conversation with you again. If he does, once again state that you have a boyfriend and that you are happy with your relationship. Follow it up by telling him that you would prefer to not have anymore conversations on the subject and that if he can't respect your wishes, that you will go to management (don't actually go to management unless he insists on bringing this up even after you've warned him).
Don't worry about how other people will perceive you should you have to go to management. Rational people WILL think that you did the right thing. The irrational ones? They aren't worth your time or worth worrying over.
Alright, I just want to start with saying I don't at all think this person sexually harassed/assaulted me, I just want a little advice since this is my first job and I'm socially "lacking", I guess. I work in clicklist, and I was putting rejects back in the meat dpt., when a guy (probably 45, 50, maybe older) comes up to me and says I'm good at stocking and I should meet with him after work, he said he'd want to get me a job at working as a stocker instead of in clicklist. It was flattering so I reflected that kindness back to him. He asked how old I was (I'm 20), he kept going on about how young I am and how young I look, and then asked if I was married. I said no, but that I have a boyfriend. He told me I should have 3 boyfriends, of course I said "No, I only want one". He tried to get my number, I told him "I don't have a phone", and then he gave me his number. He was overall pushy, but I should've been more assertive. Thankfully my coworker came and acted like we had a thing to brush him off.
Maybe I'm silly for posting this, but I work almost everyday and I know I'll see him again. Next time, I'll be more assertive, but I don't have high hopes he'll push like he did today. If the next time doesn't work if he approaches me and doesn't understand that I'm not interested, what exactly do I do? Without advice I'd probably go to a manager and just tell them, but I'm extremely worried about making things awkward or being known as "the girl who got so and so fired". I know I should already know what to do, I apologize for my lack of knowledge there. If anyone's been in a similar situation, please tell me how it was and what you did. I know I'm overreacting, but I want to be prepared I guess, and getting information from real people who have further experiences rather than from a employee pamphlet will feel and seem a lot more secure to me. Thank you very much.
Are you teasing him? You should grow a pair imo. If this person is bothering you after you already brushed him off ONCE then you need to get rude and tell him I tried telling you in a nice way now Im telling you to **** off. Dont take unwanted **** from anyway period. Who gives a **** what other losers think.
Sounds like a opportunity for a raise and such. You said he's 45 or 50? Youre probably not that much to look at cause lets face it most kroger women aren't. Take him up on his offer is your best optioin.
Just tell him your not interested if he keeps going on and on just say "you dont want to have to get your boyfriend involved because he noticed your looking upset whwn you come home.
