Well, this bagger has been at the store longer than I have. He doesn't do squat at his job. He'll go to do lot duty and sit there talking to his friends and leave the mess of all the carts outside to whoever comes in after him. He's rude to me and when he's in his car while I'm walking across the parking lot he'll deliberately honk his horn right in front of me. He also talks very bad about me to others at the store. Now I haven't done anything to him. I don't really speak to him because he's always rude to me.
He recently told a coworker that he doesn't like me because I 'give him mean looks'. Really? I have a 'resting bitch face'. I always look mad but I'm really not. I didn't know it was a crime for my face to naturally look mean. It's gotten to the point where I walked inside to clock in for my break the other day and he was helping bag a customers groceries. Upon seeing me he said: "Oh god.. she's working today." He then sighed, gave me a mean look, and continued bagging even though the customer had just witnessed this. He thought I didn't hear it. What the hell should I do? He's loved by almost all the management so there's really no point in complaining.
Him acknowledging you presence could be considered a form of respect or sour humor/sarcasm. I too have a "meaner than a bulldog" face. Been told since I was 16 that I always look mad. Nah, I am content, that is just how my face is. Gimme something to smile about and I can smile.
There is no shortage of slackers at Kroger. My division just gave full time positions to anyone with a pulse. A month ago, there were over 400 bids posted.
Him acknowledging you presence could be considered a form of respect or sour humor/sarcasm. I too have a "meaner than a bulldog" face. Been told since I was 16 that I always look mad. Nah, I am content, that is just how my face is. Gimme something to smile about and I can smile.
There is no shortage of slackers at Kroger. My division just gave full time positions to anyone with a pulse. A month ago, there were over 400 bids posted.
Well that made me smile xD
Exactly! I'm usually just content.. I honestly have no idea what people are talking about when they say I'm mad. I'll just ignore him I guess. Maybe he'll leave me alone if he sees that I honestly don't want him to acknowledge that I'm there.
If just ignore him. Or if your bold and he's not "scared" you could say to a fellow co-worker that if seine has setting to say to you, be a "big person" and say it to you directly. As for leaving carts for the next person, can they return the favor to show him what is like? Is he like the manager " pet?"
I would politely tell him (in front of others) to stop honking at you in the parking lot. Tell him once or twice might have been funny to him, but now it's getting to the point of harassment. Then SMILE!
That's pretty aggressive if he's making comments out loud, and honking at you in the lot to terrorize you.
The "Resting Bitch Face" thing puts me off, too... but I keep it to myself. I have no idea what other people are going through or what their deal is. Just be decent until proven otherwise. I give people a chance.
Definitely harassment, though. I'd be talking to someone double quick if he keeps up that crap.
-- Edited by Turd Ferguson on Wednesday 17th of June 2015 06:21:28 PM
Unfortunately I don't drive xD Honestly I'm to the point where I'm ready to leave as soon as I see him at work. He yet again honked his horn at me in the parking lot right as I was in front of his car. It's ridiculous. I haven't done anything; I haven't said anything wrong nor have I confronted him about it because he's one of the favorites. (Our store manager is a sexist pig who is buddies with all the men and the women are treated like crap.) So going to management is a no-go. I'm honestly going to call the union if it keeps up.
I'd call the union. What he is doing is bullying. Unfortunately you can't have someone terrorize and bully him back without him knowing it was you. He'd probably tell mamagement and you'd be the one in trouble. So what I'd do is: document EVERYTHING negative he says or does to you record conversations secretly if need be. Then turn it into the union/human resources, have a friend or family wait with you if needed. That guy is probably use to you being alone so he won't expect a friend to wait with you. Are you the only one hedges this to?
If you don't feel like you can talk to your store manager then call corporate. Find out who your regional manager is, not the district manager. Tell them what is happening and you can bet they will put a stop to it. Keep a notebook and pen on you at all times and document everything. This will come in handy when the retaliate against you for saying something. And they will. I got a floor supervisor demoted (corporates idea not mine) and she continued to retaliate so when management wouldn't do anything I went over their head. Guess what? They put that bitch in her place real quick. Take pictures and record with your cell phone when you are walking by his car. Get witnesses.
I can't believe this company. Here we all are, from different store across the US, telling the same stories. These are not isolated incidences, it's just the way the company is. More people need to speak up. I wish somehow we could all just do a nationwide strike.
I'd call the union. What he is doing is bullying. Unfortunately you can't have someone terrorize and bully him back without him knowing it was you. He'd probably tell mamagement and you'd be the one in trouble. So what I'd do is: document EVERYTHING negative he says or does to you record conversations secretly if need be. Then turn it into the union/human resources, have a friend or family wait with you if needed. That guy is probably use to you being alone so he won't expect a friend to wait with you. Are you the only one hedges this to?
Yes, I'm the only one he's like this to. I mean he teases others in the store, but he'll laugh and smile at them. I came in early for my check today and to shop and he was bringing carts in and as soon as he saw me he made a huge sigh and rolled his eyes at me. Oh, and he honked at me again in the parking lot. I have high anxiety issues and when he does this it scares the living hell outta me. I have wrote down some of it, but most of the time I forget to write down what he's done because I'm so busy at work.
It is sad, though. I had so many high expectations about working at Kroger until I started working here. Now I hate it with a burning passion.
I'll be keeping an eye out for the next time he does something. I'll file a harassment grievance with the union if it keeps up. No point in complaining to management since he never gets in trouble. I'm not the only one who doesn't like him.
-- Edited by FuelGal on Friday 19th of June 2015 12:17:07 AM
-- Edited by FuelGal on Friday 19th of June 2015 12:17:44 AM
I'd call the union. What he is doing is bullying. Unfortunately you can't have someone terrorize and bully him back without him knowing it was you. He'd probably tell mamagement and you'd be the one in trouble. So what I'd do is: document EVERYTHING negative he says or does to you record conversations secretly if need be. Then turn it into the union/human resources, have a friend or family wait with you if needed. That guy is probably use to you being alone so he won't expect a friend to wait with you. Are you the only one hedges this to?
Yes, I'm the only one he's like this to. I mean he teases others in the store, but he'll laugh and smile at them. I came in early for my check today and to shop and he was bringing carts in and as soon as he saw me he made a huge sigh and rolled his eyes at me. Oh, and he honked at me again in the parking lot. I have high anxiety issues and when he does this it scares the living hell outta me. I have wrote down some of it, but most of the time I forget to write down what he's done because I'm so busy at work.
It is sad, though. I had so many high expectations about working at Kroger until I started working here. Now I hate it with a burning passion.
I'll be keeping an eye out for the next time he does something. I'll file a harassment grievance with the union if it keeps up. No point in complaining to management since he never gets in trouble. I'm not the only one who doesn't like him.
-- Edited by FuelGal on Friday 19th of June 2015 12:17:07 AM
-- Edited by FuelGal on Friday 19th of June 2015 12:17:44 AM
Tell him to to his face (in front of someone, as a witness, someone you can trust) to stop. Tell him you are tired of him harassing you. Then if he continues go over your managers head if he never gets in trouble. Call corporate. They will help you. I would do the following:
1. Talk to employee, tell them their actions are considered harassment under company policy and you would like for them to stop.
2. Talk to the store manager and let them know you had a conversation with that employee, and that you hope management will back you up or you will contact someone from corporate.
3. Call Corporate if things do not improve.
You really need to take some type of action on this. Just saying management will side with him isn't going to stop him. And make it a top priority to remember and record what he does no matter how busy you are.
I'd call the union. What he is doing is bullying. Unfortunately you can't have someone terrorize and bully him back without him knowing it was you. He'd probably tell mamagement and you'd be the one in trouble. So what I'd do is: document EVERYTHING negative he says or does to you record conversations secretly if need be. Then turn it into the union/human resources, have a friend or family wait with you if needed. That guy is probably use to you being alone so he won't expect a friend to wait with you. Are you the only one hedges this to?
Yes, I'm the only one he's like this to. I mean he teases others in the store, but he'll laugh and smile at them. I came in early for my check today and to shop and he was bringing carts in and as soon as he saw me he made a huge sigh and rolled his eyes at me. Oh, and he honked at me again in the parking lot. I have high anxiety issues and when he does this it scares the living hell outta me. I have wrote down some of it, but most of the time I forget to write down what he's done because I'm so busy at work.
It is sad, though. I had so many high expectations about working at Kroger until I started working here. Now I hate it with a burning passion.
I'll be keeping an eye out for the next time he does something. I'll file a harassment grievance with the union if it keeps up. No point in complaining to management since he never gets in trouble. I'm not the only one who doesn't like him.
-- Edited by FuelGal on Friday 19th of June 2015 12:17:07 AM
-- Edited by FuelGal on Friday 19th of June 2015 12:17:44 AM
Tell him to to his face (in front of someone, as a witness, someone you can trust) to stop. Tell him you are tired of him harassing you. Then if he continues go over your managers head if he never gets in trouble. Call corporate. They will help you. I would do the following:
1. Talk to employee, tell them their actions are considered harassment under company policy and you would like for them to stop.
2. Talk to the store manager and let them know you had a conversation with that employee, and that you hope management will back you up or you will contact someone from corporate.
3. Call Corporate if things do not improve.
You really need to take some type of action on this. Just saying management will side with him isn't going to stop him. And make it a top priority to remember and record what he does no matter how busy you are.
Is this employee a courtesy clerk? How old is he?
He is 18. Unfortunately he is friends with my brother and so I'm walking on thin ice because my brother doesn't want me to do anything to get this guy in trouble. And if a CC is a bagger, then yes he is.
I have to ask because if he's bringing some stupid family "prank" or "joke" into your workplace, thats not cool.
Nah I've already confronted my brother about this. He really doesn't talk much at work to the guy. He says that he isn't getting in the middle, but I should do what I have to. My brother keeps the pranks and jokes at home.
